In a world often filled with fear and negativity, we commonly find ourselves trapped in a cycle of worry, over thinking and self doubt. If you’ve ever felt like your mind has an automatic inclination toward the negative, you’re not alone. It’s a quirk of human psychology that we tend to focus on what might be wrong with ourselves or our world, rather than what’s right.

At this time around Christmas, often we are feeling quite exhausted after the year, and many of us may be having concerns about financial stress and the inability to afford expected gifts, feelings of loneliness and a lack of companionship during the holidays, comparisons to others’ seemingly ‘perfect’ holidays on social media, or anticipation of family tensions and arguments. All these negative thoughts can steal our happiness from what is meant to be a relaxing and joyful time of year.

But what if I told you that this auto bias to negativity is not something you have to be stuck with? What if you could change the way you think and, in turn, change your experience for the better? This blog shares the power of understanding and managing negative thoughts to connect with your true inner well-being.

Breaking Free from Negative Thoughts

The main reason our mind has a bias to the negative, is that our minds have evolved to protect us, and one way they do that is by constantly subconsciously scanning for potential threats. This means that we often find ourselves dwelling on the negative aspects of our lives, whether it’s our perceived mistakes of the past, or anxieties about the future. These fearful and negative thoughts can be paralyzing, leading to low self-esteem and diminished well-being.

The critical insight to gain here is that these negative thoughts are not necessarily accurate reflections of reality. More often than not, they are distorted, exaggerated, or based on unfounded fears. Recognising this fact is the first step towards liberating yourself from their grip.

Every one of us is born with innate well-being—a sense of feeling good in ourselves and an innate potential for happiness. However, the layers of negative thoughts we accumulate throughout our lives can obscure this well-being. The key is to understand and manage these thoughts instead of trying to fix external circumstances to feel better. Thoughts are not fact.

Practical Steps to Manage Negative Thoughts

1.  Awareness: Begin by identifying the negative or fearful thoughts that dominate your inner dialogue. What are the recurring themes? Are they focused on your abilities, failures, or appearance? Jot them down to gain clarity.

2. Challenge and Reframe: Once you’ve identified these thoughts, think deeply and question their validity. Are they based on facts, or are they assumptions? Challenge these thoughts with evidence to the contrary. 

3.  Mindfulness and Meditation: Practices like mindfulness and meditation can help you observe your thoughts without judgment. They allow you to distance yourself from negative thinking patterns and develop a more balanced view of yourself and the world.

4.  Positive Affirmations: Create a list of positive truths that counteract your negative beliefs. Repeat these affirmations daily to support a more positive mindset.

5.   Reach out for Support: Don’t hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or a Coach. Talking about your thoughts and feelings can provide valuable perspective and emotional relief. 

By managing and moving away from these negative thoughts, you can reconnect with your innate well-being and happiness. This newfound clarity of mind allows you to experience more inner peace, clarity and a sense of feeling grounded.



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